It is not the circumstance itself that defines how someone responds.  It is the position of their heart that decides the response.

When you introduce fear into the thinking process of an individual, it can change everything in the condition of the heart and their behavior.

Love vs. Fear

1 John 4:17-18 (NLT) – And as we live in God, our love grows more perfect.  So we will not be afraid on the day of judgment, but we can face him with confidence because we live like Jesus here in this world.  Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear.  If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love.

Matthew 11:28-29 (NLT) – Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.  Take my yoke upon you.  Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls.”

2 Corinthians 4:8-10 (NLT) – We are pressed on every side by troubles, but we are not crushed.  We are perplexed, but not driven to despair.  We are hunted down, but never abandoned by God.  We get knocked down, but we are not destroyed.  Through suffering, our bodies continue to share in the death of Jesus so that the life of Jesus may also be seen in our bodies.

When we are not experiencing joy, it is because we have given some level of ownership of our lives to something that shouldn’t have it.

Romans 6:16 (NLT) – Don’t you realize that you become the slave of whatever you choose to obey?  You can be a slave to sin, which leads to death, or you can choose to obey God, which leads to righteous living.